Accepting Imperfection

Sunday, February 16, 2014

I haven't posted on this blog in a very long time. As a writer, I think about blogging a lot, but I never get around to actually sharing my thoughts. This is mostly due to perfectionism. I look at other blogs with custom designs, beautiful photography and great prose, and while I find inspiration in that, it ultimately paralyzes me and I don't post anything.

The second reason I haven't posted since last summer is that I've hardly picked up my camera since then. I've snapped a few family pictures at birthdays and Christmas, but my camera is currently collecting dust in a closet.

I decided to post today because something author and researcher Brene Brown said about perfectionism during her Life Class with Oprah impacted me. She said:
When perfectionism is driving, shame is always riding shotgun. We struggle with perfectionism in areas we feel most vulnerable to shame...I call it the 20-ton shield. Here's what perfectionism really is. It's a way of thinking that says this: If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame and ridicule. Perfectionism keeps us from being seen.
This sums up my whole creative life quite concisely. I love to write and take pictures, but because I am consumed with perfectionism, I either don't share my work or I don't practice my crafts.

So today, I am posting this imperfect post. My blog doesn't have some awesome design. I can't even come up with a catchy name for my blog. My writing is riddled with grammatical errors. But that's okay today and I hope I will allow it to be okay tomorrow too. And I hope that my willingness to be imperfect inspires everyone who lands here to be willing to be imperfect at something they really want to do.

Brene Brown has a book called The Gifts of Imperfection. When you think about it, accepting imperfection really is a gift you give to yourself. Because then you are free to do your best, but not being too hard on yourself if you don't "measure up."


Melissa Ashcraft said...

Thank you for sharing. Dare I say, it's PERFECT inspiration.

Denene said...

Thank you, Melissa!

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